Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Cooperative Co-Parenting

Co-parenting isn’t easy, but it's the best way to make sure your children’s needs are met and they are able to maintain close relationships with both parents.


It may be helpful to start thinking of your relationship with your ex as a completely new one—one that is only about the well-being of your children and not about either of you. Your relationship may be over but your family is not. Doing what is best for your children is your most important priority.

The first step to being a mature, responsible co-parent is to always put your children's needs ahead of your own.
Cooperative co-parenting relationships help children:
Feel secure. When confident of the love of both parents, children can adjust better to transitions and changes.
Benefit from consistency. Cooperative co-parenting fosters similar rules, discipline, and rewards between households so children know what to expect and what is expected of them.
Learn good problem solving skills. Children who see their parents continuing to work together are more likely to learn how to effectively solve problems themselves.
Have a healthy example to follow. By cooperating with the other parent, you are establishing a life pattern your children can carry into their future.

Posted by Isa Salvador, LCSW, IMH-E